Filling Players' "Emotional Tanks"

Consider the following scenario ... What Would You Do?


Your sweeper continually loses the ball on the dribble, rather than clearing the ball quickly. She is upset at herself for this repeated mistake and is now playing with less energy. How do you fill her Emotional Tank?


"I'd say: You usually do the right thing with the ball. I've seen you clear it accurately time after time in practice. I notice you're having trouble with that today, and maybe it's tougher today because the other team's striker is so fast. But I also know you've got a great scissor step. If you use that and remember to look for support and then clear, I'm sure you can be an effective start to our offense. I have a lot of confidence in your ability to execute that move."

     - Teg, Youth Soccer Coach (U19), Madison, CT


"I'd start by asking the player what was happening out there. At the age level I coach (U-16), the players know when they are making mistakes, and they often know what they need to do to fix things. It's a lot easier for my players to critique themselves, rather than hearing from me all of the time."

     - Molly, Youth Soccer Coach (U16), Chicago, IL


"I think I would try hard to find some things that she was doing well (communicating with her teammates, marking the opposing forward tightly, etc.), and I would pull her aside at half time and mention the good things, while giving her a few tips on how to get rid of the ball faster, so she would not continue to get caught in possession."

     - Alan, Youth Soccer Coach (U10), New York City, NY


"This would really depend on which of my players was making this mistake. Some of them can handle it when I offer suggestions from the sidelines, but some of them get distracted when I offer this coaching during the game."

     - Amy, Youth Soccer Coach (U12), Washington, DC


"I've had this happen to me, and I found it frustrating because we worked on this so much in practice. My backs know they need to only take a few touches before they distribute the ball, so this would be frustrating. I might consider subbing her out of the game, but I would be worried this might just hurt her confidence even further."

     - Eric, Youth Soccer Coach (U14), Wakefield, RI

 


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