Posted on May 7, 2010: How do I deal with my players' emotional responses?
A Responsible Sports Fan suggested the following Scenario Question:
I have three 10 year old baseball players who are outstanding players. However, they all have emotional issues when they strike out, get called out, or even don't get the pitching call they want. They all start crying or pouting. They did start to play on a traveling team together for 10 and under. Do you think they should be moved up to play with the 11 and 12 year olds in league play? I think they have the ability to play with that age group, but they must be voted on individually.
Dear Andy,
Based on your brief description, it does not sound like these three 10-yr-old players yet have the emotional maturity to play with the 11- and 12-yr-olds. They may have the physical ability, but that is just part of the equation. Also, if they are crying when they face challenges, that is even more of a concern, as at the higher age level, they will likely meet with more "failure" (striking out, getting called out, etc.).
This is likely a wonderful time to sit them down and talk with them (individually) about what you think they need to do to play at the next level. The good news for them is that their reactions to things like striking out or not getting the pitch they want is 100% within their control (even if they don't want to admit it!). You can let them know that once they've brought their mental game up to the level of their physical game, you'll be excited to support their move.
You can also coach them about using some sort of mistake ritual to keep their emotions in check, such as "brushing off" a strikeout rather than pouting.
This is an exciting opportunity for you as a coach to have an impact that can carry far beyond baseball for these three boys.
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