2/1/2012 12:00:00 AM:
Your son’s coach wants him to focus on hockey. However, he enjoys playing other sports in addition to hockey.
How do you advise your child?
1/30/2012 12:00:00 AM:
You are half-way to the site of your child's game when he/she tells you that he/she forgot her jersey. If you return home, your child will arrive 15 minutes late for the start of the game.
What should you do?
1/23/2012 12:00:00 AM:
The opposing fans yell and try to distract the shooter every time one of your team's players goes to the free-throw line.
What should you do?
1/16/2012 12:00:00 AM:
Grandpa calls after every game, and the first thing he asks your child is, "Did you win?"
What should you do?
1/9/2012 12:00:00 AM:
Your child's best friend quits mid-season and joins another team. Your child wants to follow.
What should you do?
1/2/2012 12:00:00 AM:
Your child has literally not touched the ball in the first three games of the season?
What do you do?
12/26/2011 12:00:00 AM:
You arrive for your 5-year-old's third game of the season, and your child announces that he/she doesn't want to play. This didn't happen in the first two games.
What do you do?
12/19/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your child's team gets a quick lead and will clearly dominate the opponent. Your sideline continues to loudly celebrate each score while the other sideline is dead silent.
What do you do?
12/12/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your child wants to play a club sport while also playing a school sport. The club sport coach is know to severely condition her players.
Do you have any advice for your child?
12/5/2011 12:00:00 AM:
You are pretty sure the score displayed on the scoreboard is incorrect.
What should you do?
11/28/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your child displays a severe act of bad sportsmanship in a game, but the coach ignores it.
What should you do?
11/21/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your child has an out of town club athletic event that will end Sunday night, making for a late night return home. School tryouts are the next morning at 8am.
Do you have any advice for your child?
11/14/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter is noticeably "down" when you pick her up from practice. When you ask if anything is bothering her, she replies, "I didn't play very well in practice."
What should you do?
11/7/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your freshman son shares with you an essay in which he states his goal of making the varsity team this year. You consider this an unrealistic goal.
What should you do?
10/31/2011 12:00:00 AM:
You notice that the lines judge at your daughter's youth volleyball match is not paying attention.
What should you do?
9/19/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is communicating a lot via email, phone and text messaging with the coach.
Is this a concern?
9/12/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is struggling with the option of playing varsity with little playing time, or playing JV with substantial playing time.
How do you advise him?
9/5/2011 12:00:00 AM:
You hear rumors that some of the athletes at your child's school are experimenting with steroids.
What do you do?
8/29/2011 12:00:00 AM:
You know your daughter is not doing her "required" off-season individual conditioning workouts.
Do you say anything?
8/22/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is considering not playing his sport in junior high because he's heard the coach is a jerk.
How do you advise him?
8/15/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your child complains the coach doesn't push the team hard enough.
What would you say?
8/8/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your child has been given a friendship bracelet by a dear friend, and doesn't want to play in a game because she would have to remove it.
What do you do?
8/1/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your child's basketball team loses a game by the score of 105-3.
Do you do anything?
7/25/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your freshman son says he's attending his high school team's "initiation" Friday night.
Do you say anything to him?
7/18/2011 12:00:00 AM:
You know several of your child's teammates are sick with the flu, but show up to play.
Would you let you child play?
7/11/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter has verbally committed to one college, but wants to accept a recruiting visit to another school, saying it would be fun.
Do you let her go?
7/4/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your son recieves a college recruiting call as a sophomore which you know is in violation of NCAA rules.
What do you do?
6/27/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter is being recruited by colleges as a setter, but her high school coach has her playing outside hitter.
Do you say something to the coach?
6/20/2011 12:00:00 AM:
You are interested in watching an occasional practice, but the coach has told you that practices are "closed."
Do you say anything to him?
6/13/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your 11-year-old son tears up whenever he makes a mistake or misses a play.
What do you do?
6/6/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your son has been assigned to play on the offensive line, but he wants to be a running back.
How do you advise him?
5/30/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your son tells you his football coach taught him to pull on his opponent's jersey and even hair to gain an advantage.
How do you respond?
5/23/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter's coach wants her to serve underhand, but she wants to serve overhand.
How do you advise your daughter?
5/16/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your child's coach often keeps the players late at practices and games while parents wait.
How do you handle this situation?
5/9/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your son mentions that his high school football coaches routinely cuss in practices and games.
Do you say anything?
5/2/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter wants to try out for the spirit squad, but others have been telling her she's not cut out for it.
How would you handle this?
4/25/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your freshman son wants to go out for wrestling. You hear that three wrestlers at the high school got staph infections last year.
What do you do?
4/18/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your son comes home from wrestling practice and complains that a teammate is bullying him during practice.
How do you approach this?
4/11/2011 12:00:00 AM:
After your daughter has had lots of success in rec tennis tounaments, she enters a competitive tourney for the first time and is immediately eliminated after two quick losses.
What do you say to her?
4/4/2011 12:00:00 AM:
After getting hit by a pitch at practice, your eight-year-old son doesn't want to play baseball any more.
How do you handle this situation?
3/28/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is considering quitting wrestling after suffering a broken finger.
How do you guide him through this decision?
3/21/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter's academic performance is suffering, but she always seems to have time and energy for more soccer practice.
How do you correct the situation?
3/14/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter plays first base on her softball team. You get to the game and see the infield is in terrible shape, and you're worried about her safety.
What do you do?
3/7/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your son injured his shoulder and has yet to be medically cleared for competition, but the coach of his high school team told him that the team needs him and expects his to wrestle this weekend.
What do you say?
2/28/2011 12:00:00 AM:
You are approached by an elite coach who tells you your 13-yr-old son has the potential to earn a college scholarship if he specializes in hockey now (forcing him to give up basketball and baseball).
What do you tell your son?
1/24/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your son's classmates tease him for being on the golf team, because it's not a "real sport" like football.
What do you tell your son?
1/17/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter's high school basketball coach has trouble getting to practice on time.
Do you say anything to the coach?
1/10/2011 12:00:00 AM:
You wonder if your daughter's volleyball coach is challenging her enough to work as hard as possible and reach her potential as a player.
Do you say or do anything about this?
1/3/2011 12:00:00 AM:
Your son routinely defeats any of his teammates in tennis practice, but in matches, the coach plays him at #2 singles instead of #1 singles to gain more points.
What do you do?
12/27/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter is one of the most popular players on her softball team, but is troubled by the cold-shoulder she is getting from one of her teammates.
How do you advise your daughter?
12/20/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your high-school-aged daughter is spending too much time preparing her recruiting videos.
How do you handle this?
12/13/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Coach schedules practice at the same time as a high school dance and warns the players that a missed practice will cost them playing time.
What do you advise your child to do?
12/6/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your child occasionally complains of pain after practices and games but wants to continue playing through it.
What do you do?
11/29/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is considering giving up his place on the wrestling team so that the only girl on the team has a better chance to compete.
How do you advise your son?
11/22/2010 12:00:00 AM:
It's obvious to you that the opposing pitcher just beaned your daughter in her first at-bat after hitting a homerun.
How do you handle this situation?
11/15/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son stands over opponents and looks down at them after knocking them down with hard (but legal) checks.
What do you say to your son?
11/8/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son's soccer coach sees your son as a potential high-scoring forward, but your son wants to continue playing on defense.
What do you tell your son?
11/1/2010 12:00:00 AM:
The weightlifting program for your son's wrestling team leaves him too bulky for his baseball season.
How do you handle this?
10/25/2010 12:00:00 AM:
You notice some wear in your child's hockey pads that seems dangerous, but he says he's comfortable and wants to keep wearing them.
What do you do?
10/18/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son's baseball coach knows some players chew tobacco but does not raise the issue with any of them.
Do you do or say anything?
10/11/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is getting roughed up in a game, but neither the officials nor coaches are trying to stop the rough play.
What do you do?
10/4/2010 12:00:00 AM:
After watching a few games, you sense your child's soccer teammates are purposely not passing to him even when he is in position to score.
How do you handle this situation?
9/27/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son's wrestling coach asks him to drop to a lower weight class, even though your son struggles to make his current weight.
What should you do?
9/20/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your 12-year-old son's hockey coach keeps your son in goal even after he allows eight goals and appears demoralized.
What do you do?
9/13/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your 10-year-old daughter's softball coach seems to automatically give your daughter the bunt sign.
What do you do?
9/6/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your eight-year-old is selected to a different soccer team than her best friend and decides she does not want to play.
What do you do?
8/30/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your 16-year-old daughter is a highly successful cross-country runner. You notice that she has progressively lost weight over the past eight months and is looking too thin to you.
What do you do?
8/23/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son, a high school hockey senior, has lost his starting spot to a more talented sophomore. Your son seems less enthusiastic about his hockey experience.
How do you handle this situation?
8/16/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your child plays youth football and has asthma and very occasionally has severe attacks induced by exercise. Your child does not want the coach to know.
What should you do?
8/9/2010 12:00:00 AM:
The parent of your child’s teammate, who happens to be a former college football player, is coaching your child from the sidelines during games.
How do you handle this situation?
8/2/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your child, a high school freshman has a teammate that appears to be rude and verbally abusive to your child during competition.
What do you do?
7/26/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son’s coach has asked him to get a haircut. Your son likes to wear his hair long, but is concerned about going against the coach’s wishes.
What do you tell your son?
7/19/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter’s high school softball coach wants her to utilize her power and swing for the fences more. Your daughter is reluctant because she feels she can out-run ground balls.
How do you handle this?
7/12/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is a senior and captain of his high school soccer team. He is frustrated with his coaches and the season and tells the head coach he is not doing a good job.
Do you say anything?
7/5/2010 12:00:00 AM:
You notice that your 13-year-old tennis playing daughter plays “easier” against opponents that are her friends.
Do you do anything about this? If yes, what?
6/28/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your 11-year-old golf playing child has done very well in novice tournaments.. She decides to enter a U-12 open tournament, gets badly beaten, and is demoralized.
What do you say?
6/21/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your baseball playing son has just transitioned from minors to majors. He is having trouble with the speed of play at this level. Before the first game, he tells you he does not want to continue.
What do you say?
6/14/2010 12:00:00 AM:
You are the “Team Parent” and only four of twelve families sign up to bring post-game snacks, despite repeated requests by you.
What do you do?
6/7/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your seventh grade daughter plays softball for the first time and has a fun season. She now is talking about not going out for volleyball, so she can focus on off-season training.
How do you handle this?
5/31/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Due to work schedules, you and a friend are car-pooling your children to practice. The other parent is often late, thus making the children late for practice.
How do you handle this situation?
5/24/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your eight-year-old’s soccer coach regularly arrives 5-20 minutes late for practice.
Do you do or say anything? If yes, what?
5/17/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your freshman son wants to go out for the high school wrestling team. You have heard that last season, four of the school’s wrestlers developed serious staph infections.
How do you handle this situation?
5/10/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your senior son (135 pounds) wants to lose 12 pounds in order to fill an open spot in the varsity wrestling team. He has never been a varsity starter before.
How do you handle this situation?
5/3/2010 12:00:00 AM:
The scorekeeper is struggling at your child’s hockey game. Other parents are constantly yelling “point” or “score” at the young scorekeeper
How do you handle this situation?
4/26/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your high school child has signed a “no drinking pledge” required by the school in order to participate in sports. You find out she was drinking at a party with friends who are also athletes.
What do you do?
4/19/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is a relatively weak attacker on his U-14 volleyball team. He is disappointed that he doesn’t get many sets in matches.
What do you say and do?
4/12/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter, a sophomore on the softball team, is clearly better than the senior she is playing behind. Some games your daughter gets very little playing time.
What do you do in this situation?
4/5/2010 12:00:00 AM:
The team athletic trainer wants to give your son a cortisone shot so he can play in tonight’s high school hockey match against a rival team.
What do you do?
3/29/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your child’s U-10 soccer team goes ahead 6-0 in the first half against an outmatched opponent. The coach starts the second half with the same starting line-up.
Do you say or do anything about this?
3/22/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son, a high school junior, returns from a game that you were not able to attend. He informs you that he has been suspended from the team for two games because he got into a fight.
What do you do?
3/15/2010 12:00:00 AM:
It is late in the season and your child is the only player on her U-8 soccer team that has not scored a goal. All the players and coaches aware of this.
How do you handle this with your child?
3/8/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter is a relatively weak server and always gets subbed out when it is her turn to serve. She says she wishes she could get to serve in the volleyball matches.
What do you say?
3/1/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is a soccer player. Even though he’s not on the football team, the coach wants to “put him on the roster” in case the team’s only kicker gets injured.
How do you handle this situation?
2/22/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your husband has been your 14-year-old's softball coach for six years. You are seeing signs that your child may want a new coach.
What do you do?
2/15/2010 12:00:00 AM:
The other team’s coach is yelling intimidating things at your 9-year-old son and teammates. The officials are teens themselves and seem too afraid to stand up to the coach.
What do you do?
2/8/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is entering his first year of playing on a 10-foot hoop. In his first game, he went 0 for 8 and is convinced he can’t shoot on the tall hoop.
What should you say?
2/1/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is invited to play on a select team. In order to do so, she will no longer be able to play for her school team for which she was voted captain.
What advise would you give?
1/25/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is being recruited as a forward. Due to injuries, the coach wants your child to play defense. This change could impact their ability to get a college scholarship.
What do you do?
1/18/2010 12:00:00 AM:
As an offensive lineman, your son is frequently baited into penalties by opponents’ trash talk. He says, “But Mom, they’re saying things about you.”
What do you say?
1/11/2010 12:00:00 AM:
You notice your son pointing at his teammates and getting upset with them, when they make mistakes.
What should you say to him, if anything?
1/4/2010 12:00:00 AM:
Your son plays Tight End and is rarely covered for his short routes. Yet the QB prefers to run if someone is not open downfield. Your son is getting frustrated.
What should you say to him?
12/28/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your team recently picked up three new players at the end of the season. They are all starting, and now your team is the favorite. Your daughter no longer starts.
Would you say anything to her?
12/21/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your child has a chance to for a devastating open ice check. At the last second, your child sacrifices the check to gain control of the puck.
Are you pleased or troubled by this?
12/14/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your coach uses complicated zone defenses, even though the athletes make mistakes in zone. They would be able to win more if they used Man coverage.
Should you address this with the coach?
12/7/2009 12:00:00 AM:
An opposing player makes a tremendous sack on 4th and 10 late in the game. Rather than celebrating, he helps your quarterback up off the turf.
How would you respond to this sportsmanship?
11/30/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your team’s quarterback, the coach’s son, frequently throws interceptions. The team continues to pass the ball at least 75% of the time. Your son is complaining to you about it.
What do you say?
11/23/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son's game started late, and now you are worried because it is getting very dark outside, and the referees are not stopping the game.
Should you say something?
11/16/2009 12:00:00 AM:
It is an exceptionally hot day, and you’re worried about sending your daughter to soccer practice to run for two hours.
Should you address your concerns to the coach when you drop her off?
11/9/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is quite large for his age, but he’s not yet grown into his frame. The coach asks him to play Varsity Offensive Tackle as a freshman.
How do you speak up about your safety concerns?
11/2/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Late in the game, your son’s team has a two-goal lead. The coach tells the players to kill the clock, costing your son any chance to score. He is frustrated by this.
What do you say?
10/26/2009 12:00:00 AM:
The opposing team has a player who continually throws elbows. The official is calling penalties appropriately, but you’re worried an injury is imminent.
What should you do?
10/19/2009 12:00:00 AM:
One of your team’s parents brings a cowbell to your son’s youth game and only rings it when the other team is on offense. No one else seems bothered by it.
Would you address this parent?
10/12/2009 12:00:00 AM:
As you arrive to practice with your son, you notice a player getting some 1-on-1 instruction. Had you known the coach would do this, you would have shown up early too.
Do you say anything?
10/5/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is the fastest player on the team and wants to return kickoffs. For some reason, the coach is reluctant to use him in that role.
What should you do?
9/28/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is a track star who was encouraged to play football. You notice in the games he frequently runs out of bounds with the ball and seems afraid to be tackled.
What would you say?
9/21/2009 12:00:00 AM:
After giving up three goals in a row, your 9-year-old son is standing in the goal crying. The coach is apparently ignoring him.
Should you intervene? What would you do?
9/14/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your 8-year-old's team has one unstoppable striker. By halftime, he has scored 5 out of 6 goals. In the second half, you notice that he is still on offense.
Would you address the coach?
9/7/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Another parent of your team doesn’t understand what “offside” means. He berates the official every time the flag goes up when your team is on offense.
Would you talk to this parent?
8/31/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your coach has an equal play policy, and it is your daughter’s turn to play goalie. In a tight game, the coach subs in the team’s best goalie. She ends up preserving the win.
What would you say?
8/24/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is called for a penalty. He argues the call and receives a yellow card, which finally quiets him down.
Would you address this situation after the game?
8/17/2009 12:00:00 AM:
You are watching the World Cup with your son. Both teams seem to be “jockeying” the officials by throwing their hands up at every questionable call.
Do you address this with your son?
8/10/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your 8-year-old son sees a player in the MLS do a bicycle kick to score. He immediately wants to learn how to do it, but you’re worried about the risks involved.
What do you say to your son?
8/3/2009 12:00:00 AM:
You hear your team's first baseman saying derogatory things to the other team's runners between pitches. Your manager does not seem to notice.
Do you say anything, and if so, what?
7/27/2009 12:00:00 AM:
At your daughter's high school game one of your fellow parents is more and more loudly contesting the umpire's balls and strikes calls.
Do you do anything, and if so, what?
7/20/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter’s friends are all playing on a travel team whose coach has a bad reputation for demeaning kids, despite winning many tournaments.
How would you handle the situation?
7/13/2009 12:00:00 AM:
After observing your 10-year-old son’s soccer practice, you are convinced the coach overdoes the conditioning.
Should you speak up? What would you say?
7/6/2009 12:00:00 AM:
You’ve agreed to coach your 5-year-old’s soccer team to help out the organization. You know next to nothing about the game.
Where can you look for help?
6/29/2009 12:00:00 AM:
You notice your team's catcher does not keep her throwing hand behind her back as the pitch is delivered.
Do you take this up with her or the coach, or do you just let it go?
6/22/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son makes the Varsity baseball team his freshman year. The coach tells him he should give up football and wrestling to focus on baseball year-round.
How do you handle this?
6/15/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son has pitched well enough all season to make the All-Star team, but when it comes his turn to start an All-Star game, he is really nervous.
How do you help him?
6/8/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your 8-year-old is afraid to swing the bat. She stands in the batters' box and watches strikes go by.
How do you handle this?
6/1/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is nervous about no longer getting to hit off of a tee.
What do you tell him?
5/25/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter's high school coach is encouraging her to steal signs when she reaches second base. Your daughter feels slightly uncomfortable about this.
What do you tell her?
5/18/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter's rough play under the basket is unnoticed by the officials. Her coach is thrilled at the rebounds she's getting, despite the questionable tactics.
Should you say something?
5/11/2009 12:00:00 AM:
After a loss, the coach makes the team stay after the game and run until they are sick. All the parents are forced to wait an extra 30 minutes before being able to go home.
How do you handle this?
5/4/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is far and away the best player on the team. She complains to you about her teammates not being very good.
How do you respond?
4/27/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is above-average sized. The coach sends your son out to fill the role of "enforcer" in protecting the smaller players. Your son expresses his discomfort with this role.
What do you say?
4/20/2009 12:00:00 AM:
After a tournament hosted by a rival travel team, it seemed clear to you that the officials were "in the pocket" of the host team.
Do you mention this to your child? Why or why not?
4/13/2009 12:00:00 AM:
A teammate of your child is injured by a dirty play. As he is lying on the ice, the opposing player taunts him. Your child jumps to his defense and draws a penalty.
What would you say?
4/6/2009 12:00:00 AM:
People say your son is good enough to play basketball in college. His senior year, he decides he doesn't want to play, so he can be with his friends, none of whom are athletes.
What should you do?
3/30/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter's competitive fire is a key to her being a great goalie. She slams her stick every time she gives up a goal.
Do you say anything to her about this? If yes, what?
3/23/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter isn't hustling to get back on defense; she's trying to cherry pick on the offensive side. The coach is yelling at her to get back.
Would you talk with your daughter about this?
3/16/2009 12:00:00 AM:
While watching a basketball game on TV, a brawl ensues among the players.
Do you allow your son to continue watching? What do you tell him afterwards?
3/9/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son plays high school basketball and baseball. The baseball coach says he can make the team, but must attend tryouts, which interfere with his basketball games.
What would you say?
3/2/2009 12:00:00 AM:
After the first practice your child's coach announces that as a team policy, parents will not be allowed to talk to the coach.
What, if anything, do you say or do?
2/23/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son tells you he overheard the captain using a racial slur against an opponent. Your son is only a sophomore role player and the captain is the star.
What advice would you give?
2/16/2009 12:00:00 AM:
After a rough collision under the basket, you notice your son is trailing the play and is limping. The coach isn't calling timeout or getting a sub ready.
What should you do?
2/9/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son's hockey coach is yelling at the players following a loss. After the game, the coach tells the team he doesn't think a bunch of losers should play anymore.
How do you approach this situation?
2/2/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your son got cut from 6th grade basketball tryouts and most of the kids who made the team also play baseball with the same coach.
What would you tell your son?
1/26/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your child lets in an easy goal in a critical situation and is clearly distraught on the drive home.
What, if anything, do you say?
1/19/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your child takes a slap shot off the ankle. He/she is clearly in a great deal of pain. The coach questions his or her toughness.
What do you do?
1/12/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your point guard's mother screams instructions at him nearly every time he has the ball. He doesn't seem to notice her, which only makes her yell louder.
What would you do in this situation?
1/5/2009 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter is the tallest player and a great shot blocker. Lately she has begun waving her finger in the face of opponents and has started receiving technical fouls.
What should you say?
12/29/2008 12:00:00 AM:
As a former goalie yourself, you notice your child's coach has no idea how to coach goalies. The warm-up drills are not just unhelpful, they are dangerous.
How do you handle the situation?
12/22/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Every year over the winter holidays your family visits your parents for a week. This is the first year when part of the trip will interfere with a basketball tournament.
What should you do?
12/15/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You notice your son's teammate, the Running Back, doesn't hold the ball close to his body. He hasn’t fumbled yet, but you feel it's inevitable.
Do you bring this up to him or the coach?
12/8/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your child delivers a dirty check on an opponent in front of the net. You hear your child's coach praising the "tough play."
Do you mention your displeasure to the coach or your child?
12/1/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your 8-year-old is one of the tallest on the team, the coach wants him to be a post player. He enjoys shooting threes, even though he’s not a great shooter.
What do you say?
11/24/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter’s coach is encouraging her to "flop" to try to get a foul called on the player she’s guarding. You think this sends the wrong message.
Should you say something?
11/17/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your child illegally checks an opposing player and is penalized. As your child heads to the box, opposing team parents start calling him a “cheap shot artist.” And worse!
What do you do?
11/10/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is hit from behind (a clear penalty) and smashed into the boards. No penalty is called.
How do you handle this as parent?
11/3/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your son plays Free Safety and you notice him taunting opponents after delivering a big hit.
Would you talk with him about this? What would you say?
10/31/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your son has been wrestling for 8 years, and he is excited to finally be on the high school varsity team. In his first varsity match, he wins and celebrates in a manner that you do not approve of.
How do you address this?
10/27/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your son plays high school football and baseball. The football coach insists that he must participate in spring practices, which would conflict with baseball games.
What advice would you give your son to deal with this situation?
10/20/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your son misses a crucial block, allowing the quarterback to be sacked. When he reaches the sidelines, the head coach grabs his facemask and begins to sternly talk with him.
What do you do?
10/13/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your son has a preseason high school JV game that conflicts with a long-planned family vacation.
Which commitment takes precedence, and how do you explain your views to your son and his coach?
10/6/2008 12:00:00 AM:
The girl playing third base for the opposing team makes an unassisted triple-play.
Do you congratulate her about it after the game even though you're a parent from the other team? Why or why not?
9/30/2008 12:00:00 AM:
your freshman son comes home from practice and tells you that he no longer wants to wrestle, but that he would rather quit the sport
What do you say?
9/29/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You find chewing tobacco in your 16-year-old's room. He says a lot of the players on his high school team chew, as does his coach.
How do you react?
9/22/2008 12:00:00 AM:
After one of your 14-year-old's All-Star games, you overhear the coaches tearing into the players, telling each of them what she did to lose the game for the team.
Do you intervene? Why or why not? And what do you say to your daughter when it's over?
9/15/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your son’s manager congratulates him for his hard collision with the opposing catcher at home plate. Parents on the other team are angry, feeling the play was dangerous.
How do you address this with your son?
9/8/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your 12-year-old daughter is invited to try out for a talented travel team.
How do you approach this decision?
9/1/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Although the tournament your son is playing in has no rules limiting the pitch count, you're worried your son is being asked to throw too many pitches.
What do you do?
8/31/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your freshman son comes home and tells you that the captain of the team, who is a senior, is doing drugs
How do you handle this?
8/25/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You see the father of your team's pitcher standing behind the backstop giving her signs, even though you know your coach has asked him to stop doing this.
What do you do?
8/18/2008 12:00:00 AM:
On two at-bats your son is thrown out at first after hitting ground balls to the infield. You don't think he's running hard through first base on these plays, but the coach hasn't said anything to him about it.
Do you mention it? What do you say?
8/11/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your league has a rule about every player getting at least one at bat per game. This is not happening on your child's team.
Do you discuss this with the coach or league leaders? Why or why not?
8/4/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Two games ago your 10-year-old son and his teammate collided hard in the outfield chasing a fly ball. Now your son is playing tentatively
What, if anything, do you do to correct this?
7/31/2008 12:00:00 AM:
you notice that during the wrestling season your daughter struggles in school and her grades slip
What should you do?
7/28/2008 12:00:00 AM:
This is your daughter's first season playing softball, and she is afraid to try to catch high fly balls.
What do you say or do to help her?
7/21/2008 12:00:00 AM:
In an important high school league game your son gets picked off first. His coach yells at him about it in the dugout, saying he did not have his head in the game.
How do you handle this?
7/14/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter is very fast, and you think it's time for her to learn to slap the ball, rather than just swinging away or traditionally bunting.
Do you discuss this with your daughter or her coach, and if so, how?
7/7/2008 12:00:00 AM:
In his last game your son was warned by the umpire for throwing his bat after making solid contact on what turned out to be a double.
Do you address this with your son? How and when?
6/30/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You notice your team's catcher does not keep her throwing hand behind her back as the pitch is delivered.
Do you take this up with her or the coach, or do you just let it go?
6/30/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your child did not have a good wrestling season and seems discouraged.
How do you keep them motivated for next season?
6/23/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You and your son are watching TV, and there is a story about performance enhancing drugs in baseball.
Do you talk with him about this issue? What do you say?
6/16/2008 12:00:00 AM:
By the third game of the season your daughter's team is singing cheers in the dugout that are demeaning to the other team
Do you do anything about it, and if so, what?
6/9/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your 9-year-old son has been playing in the outfield all season, and he keeps telling you he wants to try an infield position.
How do you handle it?
6/2/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your 11-year-old daughter often throws her helmet to the ground in the dugout after striking out.
How do you handle this?
5/31/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You have an extensive background as a wrestler and wrestling coach, yet the coach of your son has never wrestled nor coached wrestling.
How do you talk to the coach?
5/26/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your son's coach is encouraging him to try to throw a curveball, but you think this is unsafe because your son is only 11 years old.
What do you do?
5/19/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter is the shortstop on her softball team. You get to the game and see the infield is in terrible shape, and you're worried about her safety.
What do you do?
5/12/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your son, as goalkeeper, surrenders the goal that eliminates his U-14 team from an important tournament.
What do you say to him after the game?
5/5/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You notice your daughter's teammates are not passing her the ball when she is wide open and in position to score goals.
How do you improve your daughter's situation?
4/30/2008 12:00:00 AM:
During the tournament, the referee makes a call that you believe to be incorrect and the wrestler you are coaching loses as a result.
How do you address the official?
4/28/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is considering quitting football after suffering a broken finger.
How do you guide him through this decision?
4/21/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your 8-year-old daughter has not yet left the bench with just 10 minutes remaining in the season opener in a league that promises equal playing time. Do you take this up with your daughter's coach and the league administrators?
If yes, how and when would you do it?
4/14/2008 12:00:00 AM:
An opponent continues late-hitting your 12-year-old son, despite being flagged for it. It appears the opposing player, coach and referee have no intention of stopping this behavior.
What do you do?
3/31/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Competition for a starting position has started to affect your daughter's relationship with her best friend.
What do you tell your daughter to help her in this situation?
3/31/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your son injured his shoulder and has yet to be medically cleared for competition, but the coach of his high school team told him that the team needs him and that he’s planning on him to wrestle this coming weekend.
What can you say to the coach in this situation?
3/24/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You notice your son's teammates are not passing him the ball when he is wide open and in position to score goals.
How do you improve your son's situation?
3/17/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter is really nervous before a championship game.
What do you say to her?
3/11/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You are really happy with your son's head coach, but the assistant coach is constantly putting your son down and telling him everything he is doing wrong.
Do you do anything? If yes, what?
3/4/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You find out that one of the players on your child's tournament team is too old for the age limit for this event.
What do you do?
2/29/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your child wants to travel to a tournament that you do not feel he or she is ready to compete.
How do you talk to them?
2/25/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You're sitting at home with your daughter watching a soccer game on TV. You see one of the players hit an opposing player when the referee is not looking.
What do you say or do?
2/18/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You arrive at practice and the coach tells you that your son really does not want to be on the team. He is not engaged and does not appear to enjoy his time with the team.
How do you handle this with your son?
2/11/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You think your daughter has what it takes to try out for the Olympic Development Program (ODP), but she has yet to say anything to you about it.
What do you do?
2/4/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your 15-yr-old son really wants a shot at playing tailback, but his coach hasn't given him a chance.
What do you advise your son to do?
2/1/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your son feels as though he is the best wrestler at his weight, yet another wrestler is wrestling varsity and your son is on junior varsity.
How do you talk to you son to stay positive?
1/28/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter has a big tournament that conflicts with the family's summer vacation plans.
How do you handle this situation?
1/21/2008 12:00:00 AM:
You are approached by an elite coach who tells you your 13-yr-old son has the potential to earn a college scholarship if he specializes in soccer now (forcing him to give up basketball and baseball).
What do you do?
1/14/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your 11-year-old son is already playing 3 sports, and he tells you he wants to take up a fourth.
What do you say?
1/7/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter is viciously slide-tackled three times with not even a yellow card issued to the opponent.
Do you, as a parent, address the officials, the opposing coach or your daughter's coach? If so, how?
1/1/2008 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is the varsity 189 pound wrestler. In the dual meet to decide the conference championships, your son was defeated and now feels responsible for his team’s loss
How do you talk to him?
12/31/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter's academic performance is suffering, but she always seems to have time and energy for more soccer practice.
How do you correct the situation?
12/24/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Your son tells you his football coach has suggested that he needs to bulk-up to get more playing time.
How do you handle this?
12/17/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter's soccer coach e-mails you asking your opinion of the skills of some of your daughter's teammates.
How do you respond?
12/10/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Your 16-year-old son is trash-talking to his opponents on the football field.
How and when do you discuss this with your son, and what do you say?
12/3/2007 12:00:00 AM:
By halftime you have noticed some tendencies in the opposing defense that your daughter's soccer coach does not seem to see.
What, if anything, do you say to your daughter's coach at halftime?
12/1/2007 12:00:00 AM:
As a coach, you have fans who are continually acting in a manner that you do not condone nor wish to have displayed in front of the team.
How do you address this with the fan(s)?
11/26/2007 12:00:00 AM:
It becomes obvious during your son's football game that the officials' calls tend to favor the opposing team. Your son's coach never questions a call no matter how unfair the calls seem.
How do you respond to the situation?
11/19/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Your son's football coach continues starting his son at quarterback instead of your son, despite the team scoring more touchdowns with your son at quarterback.
What, if anything, do you do?
11/12/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Opposing fans are harassing your 16-yr-old daughter about her performance and appearance in the middle of a game.
How, if at all, do you try to get this harassment to stop?
11/5/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Your son, as goalkeeper, surrenders the goal that eliminates his U-14 team from an important tournament.
What do you say to him after the game?
11/1/2007 12:00:00 AM:
As a parent, you notice that the coach is continually acting in a manner that you do not condone nor wish to have displayed in front of the team.
How do you address this?
10/29/2007 12:00:00 AM:
You notice your daughter's teammates are not passing her the ball when she is wide open and in position to score goals.
How do you improve your daughter's situation?
10/22/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Your son is considering quitting football after suffering a broken finger.
How do you guide him through this decision?
10/15/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Your 8-year-old daughter has not yet left the bench with just 10 minutes remaining in the season opener in a league that promises equal playing time.
Do you take this up with your daughter's coach and the league administrators? If yes, how and when would you do it?
10/8/2007 12:00:00 AM:
An opponent continues late-hitting your 12-year-old son, despite being flagged for it. It appears the opposing player, coach and referee have no intention of stopping this behavior.
What do you do?
10/1/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Competition for a starting position has started to affect your daughter's relationship with her best friend.
What do you tell your daughter to help her in this situation?
10/1/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter would like to go out for the high school wrestling team. After talking to her about it, you find out that there are no other girls on the team. Your concerned about the coaches philosophy on females wrestling.
How do you approach this?
9/10/2007 12:00:00 AM:
You notice your son's teammates are not passing him the ball when he is wide open and in position to score goals.
How do you improve your son's situation?
9/1/2007 12:00:00 AM:
Your son would like a pair of wrestling shoes that are outside of your budget of $100 – you want to purchase him shoes while not straying from what you know is affordable.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your son's softball coach also has a child on the team. Your son and his son are evenly skilled but your son gets benched while his plays
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
You just spent $300 for your 10-year-old daughter to play softball this season. Today she said she doesn't want to play
How do you address this?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter is an above average player and wants a softball scholarship. She wants to play GOLD but she could be the star of a Class A team
What do you say to her?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
The coach of your daughter's 18-Under team is a single man in his 30s. He sometimes is flirtatious with players.
do you say something?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
My son's coach is requiring 18 hours of practice a week for his travel ball team. With school and sleep, my son is struggling
How do you approach this?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Another parent makes derogatory comments about opposing players. It makes you and other parents uncomfortable
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
A parent from the opposing team notices that your daughter's teammate does not shake hands after a loss
Do you say anything about it?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
After her teammate is diagnosed with cancer and leaves the team, your daughter says she no longer wants to play.
How do you handle this situation?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your spouse lost their job and it has become difficult to pay for your child to play ASA and high school softball
How do you handle this situation?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter is a powerful hitter who constantly hits home runs. Other players are upset because she has so many RBIs.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter's teammate posts pictures on her Facebook profile of athletes, but not your daughter, drinking.
How do you handle this?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
The star athlete has to leave the team because of a serious illness and your child is uncomfortable when asked to step up and take her spot
What do you say?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter's teammate and an opposing player are publically trading jabs through the "comments" section of a local newspaper's website
How do you address this?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
After another player is injured sliding, your 14-year-old daughter refuses to slide and is called out a few times because of it.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Without permission, your daughter and her teammates got their ears pierced for team bonding.
How do you handle this situation?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
The song that my daughter's team has chosen as their "theme song" has demeaning lyrics
How do you handle this situation?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your daughter would like to go out for the high school wrestling team. After talking to her about it, you find out that there are no other girls on the team. Your concerned about the coaches philosophy on females wrestling.
How do you approach this?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
As a parent, you notice that the coach is continually acting in a manner that you do not condone nor wish to have displayed in front of the team.
How do you address this?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
As a coach, you have fans who are continually acting in a manner that you do not condone nor wish to have displayed in front of the team.
How do you address this with the fan(s)?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is the varsity 189 pound wrestler. In the dual meet to decide the conference championships, your son was defeated and now feels responsible for his team's loss
How do you talk to him?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your son feels as though he is the best wrestler at his weight, yet another wrestler is wrestling varsity and your son is on junior varsity.
How do you talk to you son to stay positive?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child wants to travel to a tournament that you do not feel he or she is ready to compete.
How do you talk to them?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your son injured his shoulder and has yet to be medically cleared for competition, but the coach of his high school team told him that the team needs him and that he's planning on him to wrestle this coming weekend.
What can you say to the coach in this situation?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
During the tournament, the referee makes a call that you believe to be incorrect and the wrestler you are coaching loses as a result.
How do you address the official?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
You have an extensive background as a wrestler and wrestling coach, yet the coach of your son has never wrestled nor coached wrestling.
How do you talk to the coach?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child did not have a good wrestling season and seems discouraged.
How do you keep them motivated for next season?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
you notice that during the wrestling season your daughter struggles in school and her grades slip
What should you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your freshman son comes home and tells you that the captain of the team, who is a senior, is doing drugs
How do you handle this?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
your freshman son comes home from practice and tells you that he no longer wants to wrestle, but that he would rather quit the sport
What do you say?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your son has been wrestling for 8 years, and he is excited to finally be on the high school varsity team. In his first varsity match, he wins and celebrates in a manner that you do not approve of.
How do you address this?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
You see another parent of a player on your child’s team being overly critical of their child.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
You feel that your child is being fouled many times, and the ref and coach don’t seem to notice it.
How do you deal with the situation?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child loves playing soccer but isn’t focusing on his/her school work, and his/her grades are suffering.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child’s team just won a big game, and the other team is heartbroken. Rather than congratulate the other team on a job well done, some of the players on your child’s team are rubbing it in.
Do you let them enjoy their victory, or do you remind them of the importance of sportsmanship?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
It’s the final game of the season, and your child’s team is losing big. Your child is getting frustrated and starts committing a lot of fouls.
Should you control the situation, and if so, how?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
During the game, a parent on your child’s team is criticizing the referee constantly. There are kids within earshot, and you think the parent is setting a bad example.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
The referee awards the opposing team a penalty kick which they convert into a goal, winning the game. Players on your child’s team feel that the call was incorrect and are blaming the referee for the loss.
What do you say to the players?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
The best player on your child’s team isn’t showing up to practice yet still gets to play the entire game, while your child shows up to every practice and is not. Your child is getting discouraged by this.
What do you tell him/her?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
You are walking past a field and you see someone standing behind a goal, heckling the goalie.
What should you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
During a game, you overhear another parent criticizing another player’s play.
How do you handle the situation?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child doesn’t want to go to soccer practice, only to games.
How do you relate to your child that practices are just as important?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is being bullied by another player on his/her team and doesn’t want to play anymore.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
During all the years your child played soccer, he/she played one position. This year your child’s coach moved your child to another position and your child is unhappy about it.
What do you say to him/her?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child plays in goal all the time but wants to go out on the field. Your child mentions it to the coach but nothing changes.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child’s friends are all on one team, but your child is not on that team. He/she only wants to play if it is with his/her friends.
What do you say to him/her?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child just moved up to a new age division. He/she was an above-average player in the previous division, but in the new division he/she is struggling and is getting discouraged.
What do you say?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
There is a youth referee working your child’s game who seems to be getting overwhelmed and discouraged.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is picked for an all-star team, and his/her friends are not.
What do you say to your child?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child gets his/her first yellow card and is bragging to his/her friends about it after the game.
What do you say to him/her?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child’s game is tied after regulation and goes into overtime. Your child misses the last penalty kick and his/her team loses. Your child is clearly distraught.
What do you say to him/her?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child scores a goal and celebrates in a way which you deem to be excessive.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Whenever your child’s team loses, your son/daughter is in a very bad mood.
How do you deal with this situation?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child is very nervous before a game.
How do you ease his/her nerves?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child’s coach sits him/her for the fourth quarter, and your child has a very negative reaction.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child seems to dribble the ball a lot and does not pass very much.
Do you say something to him/her?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
Your child has a friend on the opposing team, and throughout the game it is clear that the two are just messing around, making it unfair to the other players.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
A parent on the opposing team is harassing one of your child’s teammates.
Do you step in, and if so, what do you say to that parent?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
A parent on your team is getting heated and vocal during the game, causing a disturbance.
What do you do?
1/1/1970 12:00:00 AM:
After a game, your child is speaking poorly about another player.
What do you tell your child?
